How to love yourself is to stop all criticism just stop it now and forevermore and make a vow to yourself that you're going to do your very best from now on to stop criticizing number one you and then other people It'll be a lot easier to stop criticizing other people when you stop criticizing yourself Now number two on that list is stopped scaring yourself And here we go into fear. How often do you terrorize yourself with your own thoughts? You're getting to absolute terror and it's only coming from your thoughts nobody out there is doing a thing sometimes It's an old family pattern. Sometimes we get new things, how many people here are absolutely in terror of earthquakes And how often do you do that to yourself? You know, we find so many ways to scare ourselves. I would like people when you have time to make a list of your fears Make a list of your fears and then give yourself the opportunity to turn each fear into a positive affirmation Turn each one into something positive and always remember you are in charge.
You are always in charge See one idle thought doesn't make a whole lot of difference it's like but thoughts are like drops of water You drop a drop of water on the table here and it doesn't mean much but if you keep dropping and keep dropping and treat dropping you get the table becomes a wash and then you get a puddle on the floor and then you can get a little pond and a lake and finally you can create an ocean and with our own thoughts we can drown in a sea of negativity or we can float on the ocean of life and it's up to us the Thoughts we think accumulate and What sort of puddles are you standing in or are you up to here or are you up to here and trying to paddle? You know, what are you doing to yourself? When we're willing to change our thinking We can change our experiences and it doesn't matter if you've got a big puddle of Negative thoughts, you know, you can move over here and create a puddle of marvelous positive thoughts You can make changes always so you want to turn those fear thoughts into positive affirmations Let them work for you The fact that you're still alive and still on this earth even though it's been challenging and rough and Sometimes you get discouraged and uninspired to keep going God has a plan You will grow through which you go through Everything that you're going through at some point.
It makes no sense to you right now but at some point, God is going to reveal to you. Why? All of these issues challenges and problems continue to show up and what you were supposed to learn from it you Will grow through what you go through Because you go to sleep at night doesn't mean you're resting Because you close your eyes at night and you are sleep physically doesn't mean that you're actually resting And the reason that you don't rest is because while you're awake Everything in everybody that's in and around your life Is so full of issues problems insecurities dysfunction negativity Your mind is and your spirit is in turmoil It's issues and problems Arguments yelling screaming dysfunction all of this shit is going on All day every day So when you go to sleep at night, you're not resting a Lot of people would say I love myself do you really love yourself? Are the things that you're doing the people that you're hanging out with and the places and the circles that you're traveling in does that Reflect a person that actually loves themself If you love yourself, why would you fuck with those type of people? You know what? They're saying about you behind your back, you know They're jealous and envious of who you are the things that you got going on in your life in your career you know that they don't like you and They made it clear.
They've sent you every sign Imaginable that they could possibly send you and because you're so desperate To have people around you and in your life you continue to go back You continue to show up to everything they invite you to know what they're saying about you I'm not preaching separatism. I want a bunch of people to just be alone at home doing nothing with no friends no family and nothing to do I'm saying that at this point you are old enough and mature enough to Understand the difference in good people and bad people and when you're hanging out with negative Dark and dysfunctional people you cannot expect yourself to go to sleep at night and rest You cannot expect yourself to feel good about your day when you're including negative and dysfunctional people in your day So what you grew up with? So, what their childhood friends so what their family We have a responsibility to walk in the direction of peace I Want to laugh I want to smile.
I want to enjoy myself. I actually want to feel good But the people that are around me You have that as a choice you actually do you don't wake up in the morning and Negativity dysfunction problems and issues just randomly pop up These are the people that you have decided to include in your life so the outcome of your day your hour your minutes your week your month in your year is always draining always dysfunctional and always fucking crazy Because these are the type of people you've decided to include in your day to day life Talking to somebody you don't love yourself You can't say that you love yourself When you continue to invite and include these people in your life You're threatened. They're insecure They have a problem with you and you don't even have a problem with them They try and make you feel bad about being so blessed They laugh about it, but they're throwing subliminal and very direct messages at you.
They're jealous They're envious and secure It threatened by the idea that You're coming up your career. And your life is advancing people put God puts people in your life for a reason Others are there for a season? It's very important that you recognize when people seasons are over God put people in your life for a reason other people are there for a season? Is the season over or Have you decided because you're desperate? Because you just need validation you need all of this shit and people and things around you You've decided to drag these random people into the new season of your life You have a boat And your boat is at its capacity and in order for your boat to not sink and go underwater and That could be your career that could be your life that can be here your personal life your relationships is That relationship over Do you feel mentally spiritually and emotionally stimulated in That relationship.
Are you just holding on to it? Because you got this concept of loyalty That you have overviews overused and over abused. Well, I've learned that loyalty has an expiration date Loyalty isn't some open-ended thing that just goes on forever because technically some people just don't really make sense for your life and the new season the mine and the space that you're in I Want you to stop playing the victim you are not the victim You decided that those are your friends You decided that those are the people that you want to spend time with you decided. This is what you wanted to do What's your day? When you get invited to places Doesn't mean you have to show up especially if you know what your experience is going to be like with these people No one wants to be alone but why spend the rest of your life being miserable frustrated and insecure Not really feeling as good as you have a responsibility to feel feeling good isn't just an opportunity feeling good is a Responsibility that we all have for ourselves.
I don't need a million people around me If I don't like you, I don't fuck with you. And guess what? I actually don't care what you say about me We have control of our minute or hour Are they are a week or month and our year? Stop running around Being on the receiving end of whatever people want to dump on you You showed up you accept that invite you invited these people to your house. You're in a relationship with that man You're in a relationship with that woman That's you. So how do you feel at the end of your night? It's always going to be based on the people that you decided to Include in your day your week your month your a year your minute your tour you got 24 hours in a day When you go to sleep at night How are you going to feel about your day all depends on who you decide to include in your day? Stop running around acting as if you don't have a choice you do have a choice you Do have a choice You're a dysfunctional motherfucker So you love dysfunctional people You love rumors.
You love issues. You love problems. You love people calling you with their problems you love it that's why at the end of every night you are drained because you are submerged yourself and dysfunctional things people in situations Stop playing the victim Stop running around acting as if you have nothing to do with the people's things and situations in your life. I Love you. I'm tired of these grown-ass men and grown-ass women running around acting as if they don't have a choice you Have a choice I'm a grown man Where are the craziest? Insane thugs gangster's Crips Bloods Disfunction where can I find and seeks trouble? Where is it? Where is it? There it is. And you decide to walk in that direction and what the fuck do you expect the outcome to be? You're hanging out with crazy people.
Do you expect the outcome of your day to be regular and okay? Where is a heartbreak? Where is someone that's going to make me feel insecure make me feel bad about myself. Where are they? Ah? There they are. So let me walk in that direction. I Love myself enough to say that I want to walk in the direction of peace. Love Spiritual folks that are always evolving and trying to better themselves Seeking wisdom and knowledge and how to take better steps and better directions to do better and walk better for their career Their life they talents Those people that you're around is not going to help further your career You know that it's been revealed to you a long time ago But because you don't want to be alone, you must rather hang out with a bunch of people that do not going to do shit for you you have a choice and The land of the blind the one-eyed man is king and the land of the blind you have people That have eyesight, but they choose To not use things that have clearly been revealed to them and The land of the blind the one-eyed man is king Most of the people out here are blind they don't see what's right in front of them.
So they choose to just Disown it and the land of the blind the one-eyed man is king. I Want better for you? The question is do you want better for yourself? Don't claim to love yourself and you're waking up every day and deciding to include these people Things and situations in your life that that is not moving like a man or a woman who truly loves themselves When you love yourself you want better for yourself? As many things can contribute to our not approving our dream so I'm not feeling good enough a lot of things can contribute to that many of us never live up to our potential or don't approve ourselves because We never had anybody to believe in us Looking at some of the things that keep us from approving ourselves that we've all done some things.
We don't feel good about Things that if we had to do those things over again, we would not do those things or we would do things differently. So, Part of what we must do in order to begin to move into your greatness. You got to remove a major energy block and that is Dealing with the issue of forgiveness people That have hurt you someone who's done you wrong Make a list and things that you have done that you feel bad about that. You regret making a list There may be a time when you weren't a good father a good mother a good brother a sister or you you were a bad Child or you didn't do a good job or you lied or you were just honest so you stole No one knows this with you or something you feel good about so, you know, it's a real dog in me to do that Something you just really regret.
So we make a list of all those things all of us have some of that Might say there is some good in the worst of us and some bad and the best of us So none of us escape Now here's something I want you to do I want you to become involved in an active process to get some clutter out of your life So if there's any area in your life that you need to clean up, there's some people whose cluttering up your life They serve no purpose whatsoever They're just holding and occupying the space that somebody useful positive nurturing and contributing could be holding its You don't even have time to look to see what else is out there because you all have all of these people Surrounding you that's not in enabling you to grow So look at what is it? I need to get out of my life Just start cleaning this stuff to see whatever you have in your environment is a reflection of your consciousness So you got all that chaos there that represents some disorganized cluttered section of your mind So let's get all this out of there All right work to get that out clean that up Anybody that you feel very strongly about have some negative feelings about let's look at some good reasons to forgive them number one You must try and see what has happened or see things from that other person's point of view Let's look at it from their point of view.
That's, that's one area. That's number one Then number two Holding a grudge hurt you It doesn't hurt them. So just for good health and peace of mind Let it go Any feeling of resentment or anger or hatred is called to me the load of bitterness within? Every thought that we entertain produces a chemical in our brain that impacts the body's immune system and Besides this person you are hating it. Probably I'm not even aware of it.
Don't even know. You're really hating them You've turned up the steam Gone from dislike to hate intensely. And here you are killing yourself making yourself vulnerable to various types of illnesses putting yourself in bad health and I say that person is not worth your Sacrificing your health or one minute of peace of mind one minute of anger. Robs you have 60 seconds of happiness So decide it doesn't matter let it go and experience the dignity and The magnanimous sense of character of being big enough to move on and get on with your life Letting it go so you can grow See what all of us have greatness within us When you don't come to grips with your greatness And you don't work to develop it if you're not seeking it out If you're not finding where it is, if you're not trying to locate it If you're not experimenting with your life to try and find out what's fits for you I'm saying that you're positioning yourself to be a miserable person an unfulfilled person How as do we do it procrastination We just put things off over and over and over again.
Why because we haven't accepted it. We don't feel deserving We don't feel that we're good enough So we sabotage ourselves by not even taking care of business. We get real busy doing a lot of things Well, we don't have any time We start doing so many things We just give our time away until we don't have any time for ourselves or any time to do the things that we want to do and Every time you put it off and move it back. Well, I'll do it one day all year I'm going to get to it I'm saying to you that one day you look around and there goes the year there goes two years. There goes three years So there's something you want to do do it now do it right now? Don't put it off start right now where you are, there will never be a perfect ideal time Whatever you have going for you right now.
That's enough work on that idea to work on it work on it work on it watch out With the relationships you have what kind of person are you becoming because of the relationships that you have right now do those people? Contribute to you, then. They help you grow and develop yourself. What kind of person are you becoming? People who have not accepted greatness for themselves these people don't study ladies and gentlemen, these people don't study They don't have time for personal growth and development they have time to work on their minds no time for that too busy for that To determine the height of your self-approval. It's important that you evaluate yourself Because you know you quite well, but it's almost impossible to do it totally by yourself. You must get some caring feedback Find somebody close enough to you that has observed you of it around you that you value their opinion and ask them How do they see you? How do they rate you in terms of your self esteem and then compare what you have? With what they say See, there are things many times that people can see in us that we can't see because it's a blind spot When someone pays you a compliment, can you handle it? Well? Can you handle compliment slow that's a good barometer? About your self-esteem.
Can you handle criticism? Well, can you give criticism? What are your expectations? What do you expect to get from life What do you expect to get from your business? What do you expect to get from your relationships? What is your ideal day? What is it that you expect from this experience this trip this journey that you're involved in People that have a strong sense of self approval They have high expectations for themselves and from life and from others See a lot of people don't expect much from life So they don't shoot for much They're not preparing for much.
A lot of people just showing up in life a lot of people just get up in the morning and they go through the day they go to the job just too full of Check down watching the clock coming here So you want to be a different kind of person as you forward your life you want to Get something out of this if you're going to do it, it's worth your time your energy You've got some expectations from this so examine your expectations versus your wishes Some people wish they could do better but some people expect to develop Were you on that and love yourself? Make caring for you the highest priority in your life Take care of you.
Look out for what truly satisfies you We're not taught to love ourselves We're not taught to look out for ourselves We're not taught to take care of ourselves to become sensitive to our wants to our needs our desires So make a conscious effort make you number one priority your peace of mind Your health is more important than your family and any and everybody because if you don't have peace of mind, if you don't have your health you can't serve anybody don't neglect yourself a Lot of us and particularly ladies have been groomed to be sacrificial lambs Putting their dreams on the back burner in deference to their children's dreams or their husband's dreams or their family's dreams and forget about themselves Then become resentful and angry and bitter So start taking care of yourself looking out for you develop a health plan your health is all you got So start taking care of you Eating nutritious meals willing to exercise your body taking care of this body loving yourself So do some good stuff for yourself on purpose take some time out for you.
You can't develop and manifest your greatness You can't be a high achiever if you don't feel good You don't take care of yourself. It takes the edge off your life It helps you to manage things rather than allowing them to manage you Gives you more personal power to deal with stuff to take care of you Now here's something else I suggest for you Become aware of what your needs are and develop compassion towards yourself. Despite your human defects Develop compassion for yourself despite your human defects you will never be perfect Hello You will never be perfect. You're human. You've made a lot of mistakes You've done a lot of dumb stupid things. Guess what? You're not through yet Gotta learn to be gentle with yourself Make it. Alright what you don't know mistakes that you make it's okay handle it learn from the experience Decide that you are going to whatever you become involved in being upfront to be true to yourself Are you getting what you need out of it? And Be upfront with people and tell them what you need From them don't assume that they know Don't say I thought you knew no tell people up front Here's what I need from this in order for this to work for me be up front with your stuff.
Tell them up front So they are not surprised later on So your feelings aren't hurt later on see if they tell you upfront they can't do it now, you know, you can keep on stepping But tell people upfront here's what I want in order for me to play this game with you and we're going to dance This is what I got to get out of it. See if you don't take care of your needs Guess what? You will always have that nagging song in the back of your mind say well, where do I get mine? See we're taught to be quiet and not speak up for ourselves Not to be selfish If you don't take care of you, what do you think's going to take care of you? Who's going to look out for you better than you will oh No one's going to do that.
You got a business No one's going to take care of your business better than you. Nobody. Nobody anything you want to do in life You've got to take ownership of it so hey, I'm going to make this after being willing to venture out and do something that you have to fantasize about doing and You know, you probably won't be good at it. But do it. Anyhow.